Tips on dating gay tops
Being a shy guy makes dating difficult, to say the least.
As a shy guy, you likely experience your share of problems with going out there and meeting other men, and you probably feel even greater stress when it comes time to actually ask those men out on a date.
But if you believe that gay relationships are unique, mostly because of cultural dynamics, it may be time for all of us to rethink how we go about the business of “first dates”.
What follows are 7 things you should avoid doing on a first date that might be helpful to you.
What’s more, the best-case scenario of asking a guy out, him saying yes and setting up an actual date simply leads to more apprehension as you worry about screwing up a potentially powerful and positive connection.
Of course, all of this doesn’t even begin to take into account the additional level of apprehension many gay guys feel when it comes to approaching other men due to the uncertainty of parsing out a stranger’s orientation. Even though you have a whole lot of anxiety to deal with, you have to just get over it if you ever want to go on dates, get laid and find yourself the boyfriend you’ve always wanted.
Even though as a whole society has become more accepting of homosexuality, it’s still surprisingly difficult for high quality, single men to find help and advice in their search for a life partner.
There isn’t a whole lot you can do about the fact that you’re a shy guy.
And because as a community we really don’t have a good blueprint for dating, we’ve had to borrow tips from our straight counterparts.
Not that this is a bad thing – there’s certainly much to be learned.
Topics to avoid include your current salary, the type of car you drive or how much you are paying for rent.
If the two of you hit it off, there will be plenty of time to open up about your personal information. You will probably have lots of questions about the man you are on a date with – particularly if he is super handsome and charming.